How Can I Help My Friend with an Unplanned Pregnancy?

ABC Life Choices Blog Post-October 2023

Supporting friend with unplanned pregnancy.

How Can I Help My Friend with an Unplanned Pregnancy? Discovering that a friend is facing an unplanned pregnancy can be a challenging situation for both of you. It’s important to remember that your support and understanding can make a significant difference in her life.

1. Be a Supportive Friend:
First and foremost, show empathy and provide a safe space for your friend to express her feelings. Understand that she may be experiencing a range of emotions, including fear, confusion, and anxiety. Listen without judgment and offer your unconditional support. Let her know that you are there for her.

2. Encourage Exploring Options:
It’s crucial to ensure that your friend is aware of all her options and has the necessary information to make an informed decision.

3. Discuss the Importance of an Ultrasound:
An ultrasound can provide valuable information about the pregnancy, including verification that her pregnancy isn’t ectopic, how far along she is and whether or not her pregnancy is viable. It’s essential that your friend receives an ultrasound before making any decisions regarding abortion. An ultrasound can help her make an informed choice and help protect her health both now and for future pregnancy.

4. Share the Need for STD Testing:
Share with her that she will need to consider a medical evaluation that includes STD testing and treatment so that she can protect her health for a future pregnancy. It is important that she have STD testing to make sure she doesn’t have Chlamydia or Gonorrhea. An abortion with an untreated STD, can increase her risk of contracting Pelvic Inflammatory Disease by 25%. 1

5. Connect with ABC Life Choices:
ABC Life Choices in Kenai offers a variety of services confidentially and at no cost to women facing unplanned pregnancies. We provide pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, and STI testing & treatment. Encourage your friend to reach out to ABC Life Choices during this time. While we don’t refer for or provide abortions, we specialize in the information and services she needs to make an informed decision for her best future. And we don’t profit from her choice, regardless of what decision she makes.

You can help your friend make an informed decision that aligns with her values and beliefs. Remember, being there for her and offering your support can make all the difference during this difficult time. You can help a friend with an Unplanned Pregnancy

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